The media has the tendency to portray divorced couples as never having anything to do with each other once the divorce is final. Even when couples with children are portrayed, there is only minimal contact and it’s only about the children. Many Pennsylvania couples that have been or are going through a divorce know that it doesn’t have to be that way.
No one would say that divorced couples have to be best friends. However, there are many circumstances — including a couple being parents — that will require a couple to at least be able to work together. Even in the midst of the pain and anger of divorce, it may be possible to remember the good things about an estranged partner that originally brought the couple together.
There are certainly a lot of reasons to resent a soon-to-be ex-spouse, but there are also hundreds if not thousands of reasons to get along. Contentious divorces that are motivated by revenge or retribution are almost always expensive and time consuming. Furthermore, at the end of it all, there is no guarantee that the parties will feel better.
For some Pennsylvania couples, it may feel like grasping at straws to remember the good things about a partner during a divorce. But being able to put aside the negative emotions that are almost certainly involved in ending a marriage can only help begin the healing for both parties. In addition to that, being able to work together can end with a divorce settlement that both parties agree to and believe is fair and equitable.
Source: Huffington Post, “5 Reasons to Get Along With Your Ex,” Susan Campos, June 19, 2013
